"From this moment…life has begun
From this moment…your are the one
Right beside you is where i belong
From this moment on
From this moment…i have been blessed
I live only for your happiness
And for your love i’d give my last breath
From this moment on..." - Shania Twain
I have always wanted this to be my wedding march song, although several hundreds of weddings would have played this song. I deeply believe in the lyrics; believe that marriage is sacred, marriage means the union of 2 person from different background to come and live 1 life together, to bring new lives into this world and to grow old together.
What triggered me to write about Marriage is that many of my friends are getting married or already had. I am 25 this year... one-third into a normal human life span. 1st one-third of the life would be to learn and cultivate to become the person you want to be for this lifetime.... which is why we get ourselves an education, or to learn skills for survival. 2nd third of a human life would be to put your skills into use for survival sake. In the midst of it, most people would feel pretty aimless doing all these everyday and decided to find someone to share the joy, laughter, woes with and this is when we, get married. The last third of our life would be to reap what we had painfully havested for the 2nd third of our life. So technically speaking, I should be entering into my 2nd third of my life! (*alarm*)
Marrying someone is not as easy as just saying a "yes" and signing some documents. There are many other factors to take into consideration besides the presence of LOVE. People always say if you love him, you will accept every part of him. Well, lets be practical. Can you accept and willing to be assocciated with his everything - his character, height, weight, family, friends, job, his pet turtle, his fetish for women stockings, etc? There are countless things to ponder upon... That is why we have the "trying period" which is what we called the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
Of course love is important, and complicated too. Love is not measurable. How much do you love him? It's not possible to count. So when you believe there is love between the two of you, it is time to put ticks on the "Acceptance Form". (Perhaps being an Engineer, figures are important to me) Can you tolerate his snores every night? Can you understand his love for his Jack Russel? Can you communicate with him even without talking? (Hey, I'm able to do that with my friends!) Can you integrate into his family - aunties, uncles, cousins?
There are other cases as well, where there are all ticks on the Acceptance Form but something seems amiss in the love section. Since it is not measurable, we'll adopt Einstein Theory of Relativity... i.e how much you love him compared to your previous boyfriends. So what if there are 2 person who score full marks in only one of the section? How do you decide? Then here comes the flow diagram technique. (Wish i could draw the flow chart to illustrate) The last question: Who loves you more relatively? The above example is only applicable to those lucky ones who has at least 2 person to create that flow diagram. For those who hasn't, they would only be seaching and searching for that ultimate someone to score full marks in their Marriage Test.....
From this moment…your are the one
Right beside you is where i belong
From this moment on
From this moment…i have been blessed
I live only for your happiness
And for your love i’d give my last breath
From this moment on..." - Shania Twain
I have always wanted this to be my wedding march song, although several hundreds of weddings would have played this song. I deeply believe in the lyrics; believe that marriage is sacred, marriage means the union of 2 person from different background to come and live 1 life together, to bring new lives into this world and to grow old together.
What triggered me to write about Marriage is that many of my friends are getting married or already had. I am 25 this year... one-third into a normal human life span. 1st one-third of the life would be to learn and cultivate to become the person you want to be for this lifetime.... which is why we get ourselves an education, or to learn skills for survival. 2nd third of a human life would be to put your skills into use for survival sake. In the midst of it, most people would feel pretty aimless doing all these everyday and decided to find someone to share the joy, laughter, woes with and this is when we, get married. The last third of our life would be to reap what we had painfully havested for the 2nd third of our life. So technically speaking, I should be entering into my 2nd third of my life! (*alarm*)
Marrying someone is not as easy as just saying a "yes" and signing some documents. There are many other factors to take into consideration besides the presence of LOVE. People always say if you love him, you will accept every part of him. Well, lets be practical. Can you accept and willing to be assocciated with his everything - his character, height, weight, family, friends, job, his pet turtle, his fetish for women stockings, etc? There are countless things to ponder upon... That is why we have the "trying period" which is what we called the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
Of course love is important, and complicated too. Love is not measurable. How much do you love him? It's not possible to count. So when you believe there is love between the two of you, it is time to put ticks on the "Acceptance Form". (Perhaps being an Engineer, figures are important to me) Can you tolerate his snores every night? Can you understand his love for his Jack Russel? Can you communicate with him even without talking? (Hey, I'm able to do that with my friends!) Can you integrate into his family - aunties, uncles, cousins?
There are other cases as well, where there are all ticks on the Acceptance Form but something seems amiss in the love section. Since it is not measurable, we'll adopt Einstein Theory of Relativity... i.e how much you love him compared to your previous boyfriends. So what if there are 2 person who score full marks in only one of the section? How do you decide? Then here comes the flow diagram technique. (Wish i could draw the flow chart to illustrate) The last question: Who loves you more relatively? The above example is only applicable to those lucky ones who has at least 2 person to create that flow diagram. For those who hasn't, they would only be seaching and searching for that ultimate someone to score full marks in their Marriage Test.....
1 comment:
Hey enuff of the enginneering instinct la...haiyo...haven had enuff at work meh? haha
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