We all form cliques wherever we are - at the playground when we were little kids, in school where we have sit together for breaks, at work which whom we have lunch with. Why do individuals inevitably form groups? Usually we form cliques of the common interest, goal or likes and dislikes. Cliques are something like culture. It is a powerful strength. They do the same things, talk about the same things and behave in the same manner.
In my workplace, my lunch "kakis" consisted of people with average age of 33. They are mostly married, experienced engineers and I am the most junior of them all. There is another group of young engineers which consist of people my age but I don't join them for lunch. The topics they discussed are lame and the jokes they attempt to make are pathetic. I prefer more constructive discussion like investment plans or upcoming new estate projects, not insincere talk and boring topics like where I went during the weekends. The type of people who put me off are those who always try to say something really exciting (or seemingly) and then ends it there, to keep you in what they hope to be suspense and then shake their head and mutter with a grin "nothing". These groups of people whom I avoid are those whom I regard as having immature thinking. Call me old or snobbish, I simply cannot stand having a conversation with such people. They are pretentious; one look and I know that they are definitely not one you can regard as friends.
Before I came to Italy for work, my clique warned me of people who take extra bread-sticks home from the company cafeteria because they wanna save on breakfast. Our company provides free bread and break-sticks as something extra to munch after lunch but they are not meant for bringing home. Boy, were they right! This group of people whom I hang out with, (with no other choice) did exactly the same thing! The lunch is already free and yet they still want to steal bread home? I am dumbfounded.
Another thing that pissed me off is there are people who like to imitate your way of talking or dressing. "Attack of the copycats!" I don't know why but I have a very strong sensor for such copycats. Since young, I came across people who would buy the same wallet, tee-shirt, slippers as soon as I bought the previous week. There are also those who copied by saying the same type of lingual which I had "invented" a few days back! It used to bother me but someone told me to think of it as a compliment. Yes, we all look up magazines to see what the latest fabs are and may rush to buy that newly launched bag showcased by Elle mag. These are not the kind of copycats which I am talking about. I am referring to those who are outright copying you. If I were a model and people wears the same sun shades as me, I will feel proud but I am a bloody plain Jane and... gasp! It is like stealing your ideas for a big project!
Right here in Italy, the few girls I came Italy with just did the copycat stance!!! I told them I wanna buy a pair of boots when I arrived on the 1st week and asked them to look out for me. I bought a pair on the 1st week and wore it out during the weekends. The following week, I hear one of them say she wants to get a pair of boots and slowly, now all of them got themselves a pair of boots! Maybe if I were to be in Singapore, I will just complain to Superboy and think they are pathetic but I am all alone in a foreign land and the least I want is someone wanting to "challenge" me. They even intend to bring the boots back to Singapore to wear?! They must be out of their mind wearing boots in the hot and humid weather like Singapore. I am gonna throw mine away on my last day here. I hope their feet rot wearing them.
In my workplace, my lunch "kakis" consisted of people with average age of 33. They are mostly married, experienced engineers and I am the most junior of them all. There is another group of young engineers which consist of people my age but I don't join them for lunch. The topics they discussed are lame and the jokes they attempt to make are pathetic. I prefer more constructive discussion like investment plans or upcoming new estate projects, not insincere talk and boring topics like where I went during the weekends. The type of people who put me off are those who always try to say something really exciting (or seemingly) and then ends it there, to keep you in what they hope to be suspense and then shake their head and mutter with a grin "nothing". These groups of people whom I avoid are those whom I regard as having immature thinking. Call me old or snobbish, I simply cannot stand having a conversation with such people. They are pretentious; one look and I know that they are definitely not one you can regard as friends.
Before I came to Italy for work, my clique warned me of people who take extra bread-sticks home from the company cafeteria because they wanna save on breakfast. Our company provides free bread and break-sticks as something extra to munch after lunch but they are not meant for bringing home. Boy, were they right! This group of people whom I hang out with, (with no other choice) did exactly the same thing! The lunch is already free and yet they still want to steal bread home? I am dumbfounded.
Another thing that pissed me off is there are people who like to imitate your way of talking or dressing. "Attack of the copycats!" I don't know why but I have a very strong sensor for such copycats. Since young, I came across people who would buy the same wallet, tee-shirt, slippers as soon as I bought the previous week. There are also those who copied by saying the same type of lingual which I had "invented" a few days back! It used to bother me but someone told me to think of it as a compliment. Yes, we all look up magazines to see what the latest fabs are and may rush to buy that newly launched bag showcased by Elle mag. These are not the kind of copycats which I am talking about. I am referring to those who are outright copying you. If I were a model and people wears the same sun shades as me, I will feel proud but I am a bloody plain Jane and... gasp! It is like stealing your ideas for a big project!
Right here in Italy, the few girls I came Italy with just did the copycat stance!!! I told them I wanna buy a pair of boots when I arrived on the 1st week and asked them to look out for me. I bought a pair on the 1st week and wore it out during the weekends. The following week, I hear one of them say she wants to get a pair of boots and slowly, now all of them got themselves a pair of boots! Maybe if I were to be in Singapore, I will just complain to Superboy and think they are pathetic but I am all alone in a foreign land and the least I want is someone wanting to "challenge" me. They even intend to bring the boots back to Singapore to wear?! They must be out of their mind wearing boots in the hot and humid weather like Singapore. I am gonna throw mine away on my last day here. I hope their feet rot wearing them.